Slut Shaming

What’s your number? How many guys, women, whatever have you slept with? A recent survey found that globally, the number is 9. Canada, where I live, the number is 10. Those naughty Turks top the list at 13.

It’s not very many people when you think about it. When you consider Tinder and Friends With Benefits and our supposed hook-up-with-anyone-anywhere culture. And remember, those are average numbers so once you remove Gene Simmons and Warren Beatty and Hugh Hefner from the equation, the number drops even lower.

Did you notice that the three big players were men? That doesn’t mean women aren’t getting busy but if they are, they aren’t going on record. What is roguish and sexy and bad boy in a guy is painted in a totally different way when it’s a woman. That’s where slut shaming comes into it. Humans are all sexual creatures but women are rarely allowed to own theirs.

There was that recent spate of hacked celebrity photos in sexual situations. Every tsked tsked but had a peek anyway. The underlying tone was “They are dirty girls” not “They are sexual women.” (My problem with the whole thing is as celebrities they should know better than to take any photos that they don’t want to become public. Some people have built careers out of leaked photos and videos but those with talent, in my humble opinion, should be more careful.)

And now there’s Halle Berry. She is getting divorced  for the third time and her exes are piling on in social media. But  both James Cameron and Martin Scorsese are on their fifth marriages. You don’t hear them being judged in the same way on social media. Is it because they are men? Is it because they are behind not in front of the camera? Is it because we don’t want to believe that a beautiful, talented woman can’t be nice and sane and competent too? I don’t know. I do know I’m tired of slut shaming. I also wanted to know what’s the new magic number before you cross that imaginary line between experienced and used and if the line is different for men than women. I think so, I really do.

 

One thought on “Slut Shaming

  1. larrylootsteen says:

    Having four daughters, I can tell you this is an ongoing issue. Boys get a pass and a pat on the back for their ‘conquests’. Girls get labeled and judged. Is this a leftover from a male dominated world? I’d say yes. Why changing it takes so long falls under the category of ridiculous and disgusting hanging on to old views and values. It’s on all of us to keep pushing back.

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